Monday, December 9, 2013

How To Get The Most Out Of Online Dating

The dating game is fun. You’ll meet loads of new people and try all kinds of new adventures. You can’t expect that all your dates will be good ones, but at least these disasters will give your friends a laugh. You’re more likely to meet suitable people with a respectable site like Global Personals, so if you current site is not working out, it’s worth giving give them a try.

Here are some tips to help you get the most out of online dating.

1. You need to keep at it. Just like dating the people you meet at work or at the gym, you’re not necessarily going to meet Mr or Mrs Right on the first attempt. Don’t lose heart. Online dating is popular for a reason – it works. Keep on looking, new people sign up every day. In fact, your future partner could be signing up to a great site such as Global Personals right now.

2. Play safe. You should never give out personal details online. Wait until you have met in real life before giving up your address or mobile number. Use your chosen site’s safety features by sticking with the messaging service. Once you are comfortable and happy that your chosen date is not weird in any way, then you can give up your details. But not before!

3. When meeting in the flesh make sure it’s somewhere public, and that a friend knows where you are. You’ve probably heard this many times before but it is sensible advice. Don’t isolate yourself with someone you don’t know, and certainly don’t invite them to your house.

4. Check your account regularly. People send messages all the time and many others are signing up. You don’t want to miss out because you weren’t paying attention!

5. Be flexible with your search criteria. If you put specifics like ‘brown hair, 5’ 10”, no children, and must love cats within 1 mile of your postcode, then you are really limiting your options! Besides which, dating should be about meeting many people and having a great time. Widen your search, think about the age range, and look older (or younger!) than you currently are.

6. On the flip side, be realistic with your criteria, especially your search radius. Whilst a one mile search radius won’t be enough, you won’t want to travel fifty miles each time you meet up either.

7. Don’t decide on a person simply by looking at their picture, because many attractive people do not photograph well! Put more faith in your shared opinions, sense of humour and interests. They have to be attractive to you of course, but if you are wavering on a ‘not sure if I like the look of him’ then stop wavering and meet up. Attractiveness is sometimes more about hormones, scents and the ‘wow’ factor, and you won’t get that over an internet connection.

Above all, make sure you enjoy yourself, and don’t get too fixated on finding Mr or Mrs Right. Be laid back, have fun, follow the tips above, and it will all come together in the end.

How To Get Back Into The Dating Game

Many people are finding these days that they are pitched back into the dating game when a marriage or long term relationship has ended. It can be quite disconcerting to suddenly realise that you are single! When you feel ready to date again, then you can meet new people in many different ways. The trick is to get yourself out there, don't be shy. A smile and a friendly remark can open up new friendships and enrich your life. Just be brave! Here are some suggestions to get you going.

1. Online Dating. A decade ago, online dating was not particularly popular, viewed by the majority of people as weird and perhaps a bit desperate. Now, everyone is doing it! You probably know couples who met online. If you ask about, you’ll discover people are trying it, and may have some suggestions to help you along. There are many dating sites out there, but if you are serious about meeting someone decent, then use a high quality site such as Global Personals. Be mindful of your safety too, and when you meet with someone, make sure it’s in a busy public place.

2. Ask your friends to set you up. They know you well, and are quite likely to pick someone who suits. They may even be better at it than you are! Just make sure you choose someone sensible, not just Dave from the pub that you don’t know very well.

3. A single person should never turn down an invite. Even if you are tired and don’t fancy it – make sure you go. You never know who will be there; at the very least it will prevent you being lonely and bored at home. Exciting things happen at unexpected times!

4. If you have children, take them to activities such as soft play, or playgrounds and parks if the weather is good. Saturday morning is a great time to meet single dads! When you pick your kids up from school, chat to other parents in the queue. Just be friendly, not over-bearing and before you know it, you’ve made another friend – who in turn may set you up with a singleton that they know.

5. Trying something new always opens up new avenues. There are lots of courses and activities you can take part in. Look online for adult learning courses. If you’ve always fancied learning how to make pasta, then now is the time! If your computer skills are rusty, then sign up for classes. If your workplace runs a sports and social club, then start taking part. You might not fancy any of your colleagues, but they might know someone who will suit you.

Getting back into the dating game is all about building new connections. Be pro-active, get online, try Global Personals, or take up a hobby that interests you, just keep busy and jump in. Above all, keep smiling and you’ll soon be back into the swing of it.

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Be Quick and Convenient to Have Loans

Easy Online Payday LoanIf you run an online business you may experience some unexpected expenses. Don’t worry how to pay it when you do not have enough credit. Payday loans could be the best choice to help you overcome such problems

Get your money as soon as possible without having knotty steps. Easy online payday loans offer you a quick process regardless where you are. Some credits types are also provided for your convenient. Besides, there will not be any outrageous overdraft fees as banks do. All you need to do is connecting you mobile device to the Internet and experiencing the shortcut done by millions of people.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships?

To have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them.

And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships and others who want them; there is also another dynamic that goes on. These are people who may develop a relationship with someone or meet another person who is appropriate and who treats them well, and yet the relationship doesn't last.

Conscious Intention

On the surface, one may have the need to be with another person that appreciates, respects and values who they are. However, although this is what is going on at a conscious level, there is a clear difference between what is actually happening in one's life.

One is aware of what they need, but this is having very little impact on one achieving that which they truly desire - a fulfilling relationship.

What's Showing Up?

It is often said that if one wants to understand what's going on at a deeper level and all that is out of conscious awareness - one should look at their behaviour. And aside from ones behaviour, is what is showing up in one's life and the kind of relationships that one is attracting.

Thursday, April 4, 2013

How You Could Successfully End A Relationship

Ever since the beginning of time people have been separating. When men and women began to write, one of the issues they wrote about, even way back, was couples splitting up. The writings probably have changed and indeed the times have changed but ending a romantic relationship never has gotten any less difficult. Folks still go through the identical emotions, the same misery, as well as the same pain.

When you find yourself putting an end to a partnership, you need to acknowledge the fact that it really is over. You may think it wise to totally forget about your ex, however, while you try to forget you happen to be actually remembering the past bond. All this accomplishes is you still thinking about all those upsetting memories which just triggers serious emotional discomfort.

As mentioned before a split is never simple. Emotionally, it can be one of the most difficult things you will face in your lifetime. You are all aware of the phrase that "Time Heals All Wounds", and you probably do not want to even listen to that outdated expression, but in fact it's correct. Try to keep this in mind as you little by little mend your psychological scars.

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Relationship Problems - Five Problems Ordinary Men Face That Exceptional Men Avoid

Nothing shameful about being an ordinary man. We all start out there. The problem with being an ordinary man is that it's a lot of work. You face the same Groundhog's Day problems over and over again. It's tough. And monotonous. And there's not a lot of perks.

In this article, I'll cover five of the top problems ordinary men face. If these sound familiar to you, you might be interested in learning more about becoming an exceptional man.

1. Ordinary men don't get enough attention. The ordinary man feels ignored by his woman much of the time. She spends a lot of time on her phone and on Facebook and then "lets" him spend time with her. But she doesn't show a lot of spark. She just assumes he'll be there. It's usually only when she's fighting with him that she fully engages with her man.

2. Ordinary men don't get enough affection. The ordinary man does a lot for his woman and feels like he doesn't get a lot back. The relationship feels unfair and unbalanced for him. He's always having to ask for his needs to get met. It's no position for a man to be in.

Monday, March 25, 2013

Love and Trust

Everyone suffers from insecurity, self-doubt, fear of being controlled or cheated on, of missing out on their share of love, passion, money and possessions. Far from always being the self-possessed person we often see, like us they have many things going on under the surface. The best way to deal with these fears and doubts is through the practice of self-compassion, compassion and acceptance.

We need to trust that others are doing the best they know how to do based upon the knowledge they have and how they see the world, the same as we are. If we truly accept and love ourselves, it will have a flow-on effect to others. This not only benefits others and our interactions with them, but also ourselves. We can save ourselves a lot of pain, envy and the feeling of not being as good as everyone else by learning to love them as well as ourselves.

When we decide to look for the best in others and at the same time avoid victim-hood, this frees us and the other person from an endless round of recriminations, competition and lack. We can be grateful for their good qualities and see them worthy of love and respect. The practice of empathy can give us a wisdom that helps us all in our daily lives.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

How To Find a Good Man - The Right Way

There are a lot of different ways that you can learn how to find a good man in these modern times, but when you start to read the columns in gossip magazines, it can seem like a painstaking task. You may not want to hear that, but it's absolutely true, and many don't even realize that. If you have been trying to move forward with someone and you can't seem to get a commitment, let them go and seek out something better, something that will increase the likelihood of your courtship and even lead to marriage. The following will help you not only get the right man, it will also help you live life to the fullest.

The number one thing that you should remember is that you need to exhibit life to the fullest. If you show off your smile on every occasion and you are living life to the fullest, than you will attract a great number of people to hit on you. This is the single most important thing that you can do, smile. Smiling has been proven time and time again as something that will generate serious attention from the opposite sex, especially if you show it off when you're just walking down the street, or even grocery shopping.

The second thing that you will need to do is go out in public often. Go out and enjoy the greatness of your city, and do not simply go to the clubs. Find things that interest you, go and enjoy them. If you like reading, don't just go to a bookstore, hit the library. If you like music, go find record stores and other adventures that await you. Some might think that it's no fun alone, but if you can't be alone and independent, you will not be a good match for someone else. You absolutely need to keep this in mind. Be yourself and find yourself out there in your world. You need to be comfortable in your own skin before you can let anyone else into your universe. Remember that, and you'll be solid moving forward.

Thursday, February 14, 2013

What Is the Different Between Romance and Passion?

If you have never been in love before, you probably have no idea what you are missing, in fact, most of us go through life experiencing at least one relationship that can be considered as serious. These relationships usually make us very happy, so we have absolutely no desire to see them end. Unfortunately, we ourselves could end up derailing the relationship, without even knowing that we are doing it. If we only knew how important these relationships really were, we would work harder at keeping them together.

When the relationship ends, we begin looking for a meaningful replacement, in most cases we end up finding one that is full of passion, which overwhelms us so much that we focus on spending the rest of our lives with that person. We think that marriage will make us happier, only to realise that being passionate is not the same as being romantic.

As important as romance is to us, you would think that we would be working harder at succeeding, the problem is that we have a difficult time making a judgment call on which feeling we are actually encountering. When nothing else in the universe matters but that special someone and the only time that you feel a connection is when you are with them, that is when you know that your emotion is one of being loved.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

We All Need Space

"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." John Wooden

Needing space is not always about the living area. At times we need a break from certain people. We may love them and care about them but we need a break from them. By recognizing this important fact, we can keep a distance when necessary and not only maintain a relationship but have no guilt. When we attend to others we have a feeling of duty to be at their disposal. Maybe this is feasible some of the time. It is impossible to achieve all of the time. Admitting our own needs and responsibilities may alleviate the anxious feelings we have when we can't always solve other people's problems. Having empathy does not mean we can't say no. At times we must say no at least for that moment. At a later date we may be able to fulfill another's need but not at the present time.

We all feel overwhelmed with duty. Our thoughts say if you love this person you will find the time or find a way to help them with a difficulty. The end result is a total depletion of our own energy and spirit. This is not good. We need to maintain our own spirits in order to be of service to others. Maybe if we admitted we couldn't take on a duty, it might be helpful to the person if they were required to do it for themselves. They may need to be able to gain confidence in their own ability. We may be completely unaware that we are creating a dependency. Even our elderly parents must acknowledge that our lives are important and deserve attention. I am not suggesting neglect but pacing.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others?

Although relationships are often seen as two people sharing who they are with the other each and with both of them being on the same level; this doesn't always take place. And when this doesn't happen, one of the reasons can be due to one person trying to rescue the other.

Now, in order for one to be a rescuer, there needs to be someone who needs rescuing. There can't be one without the other. And while it may seem that the rescuer possesses a lot more power than the person that they are rescuing; these are ultimately two sides of the same coin.

The difference is that each person is expressing themselves in a different way; with one person appearing to be stronger than the other. And this is not limited to intimate relationships either, it can also relate to relationships with: family, friends and colleagues for instance.

Different Areas

And while the rescuer is trying to save another person, this can take on, many different forms. This could be to do with finances and to propping another person up financially. It can also include trying to rescue another: emotionally, mentally and physically.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Five Things You Should Stop Doing to Win Back Your Ex

I have tried these five things to no avail. I was curious so I asked a couple of friends who had attempted to win back their ex, the response was same.

1. Wishing things could come back to normal
For your ex to be your "ex" something went down badly. The opportunity to make things right could be lost. He or she probably has moved on and met someone who has done better than you ever did. Its time to wake up and let it go. Even if you eventually succeeds in getting him or her back, i doubt you could ever make it so right, except of-course he or she is still much available and willing as much as you to get things back to normal

2.Working hard to get him or her jealous
Forget those good old tricks of trying to hang around her with your new found 'arranged date'. You can only piss them off the more. Jealously works, is just that it doesn't make things right again, it just makes your ex feel you are still that same boastful-am-OK-with-myself type.

3. Tailing your spouse
It is really time to move on. It is both sad and selfish to keep pressing things. Tailing him or her makes you look too desperate and even if you succeed in winning them back, you would have lost all the edge in the relationship

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

What Do Men Find Romantic?

Men are often stereotyped as having the romantic depth of tree sloth. Although a woman showing up naked with beer may be considered romantic by some, men are usually a little deeper than that. Men too feel passion, love, and romance; it's just that when expressing it, they don't often make much sense.

When it comes to romance, women have had the market cornered. Flowers, chocolates, breakfast in bed, candlelight dinners, and counting the times men say, "I love you" on St. Valentine's Day. But men don't need that. To light the fire of passion in a man, simply follow these five simple steps:

1) Touch him. Guys are tactile; holding a man's hand, lightly touching his arm during a conversation, or a random hug shows a man you're interested in him more than telling him so.

2) Compliment his manliness. No matter how big and strong a man is he's not as secure as he might seem. Guys want to be heroes, the one who swoops in and saves the day, so if he fixes the toilet, builds a fence, or simply changes a light bulb, you should tell him how fantastic he is and what an improvement it is and the cook him something that he would like to say thank you.