Thursday, March 28, 2013

Relationship Problems - Five Problems Ordinary Men Face That Exceptional Men Avoid

Nothing shameful about being an ordinary man. We all start out there. The problem with being an ordinary man is that it's a lot of work. You face the same Groundhog's Day problems over and over again. It's tough. And monotonous. And there's not a lot of perks.

In this article, I'll cover five of the top problems ordinary men face. If these sound familiar to you, you might be interested in learning more about becoming an exceptional man.

1. Ordinary men don't get enough attention. The ordinary man feels ignored by his woman much of the time. She spends a lot of time on her phone and on Facebook and then "lets" him spend time with her. But she doesn't show a lot of spark. She just assumes he'll be there. It's usually only when she's fighting with him that she fully engages with her man.

2. Ordinary men don't get enough affection. The ordinary man does a lot for his woman and feels like he doesn't get a lot back. The relationship feels unfair and unbalanced for him. He's always having to ask for his needs to get met. It's no position for a man to be in.

Monday, March 25, 2013

Love and Trust

Everyone suffers from insecurity, self-doubt, fear of being controlled or cheated on, of missing out on their share of love, passion, money and possessions. Far from always being the self-possessed person we often see, like us they have many things going on under the surface. The best way to deal with these fears and doubts is through the practice of self-compassion, compassion and acceptance.

We need to trust that others are doing the best they know how to do based upon the knowledge they have and how they see the world, the same as we are. If we truly accept and love ourselves, it will have a flow-on effect to others. This not only benefits others and our interactions with them, but also ourselves. We can save ourselves a lot of pain, envy and the feeling of not being as good as everyone else by learning to love them as well as ourselves.

When we decide to look for the best in others and at the same time avoid victim-hood, this frees us and the other person from an endless round of recriminations, competition and lack. We can be grateful for their good qualities and see them worthy of love and respect. The practice of empathy can give us a wisdom that helps us all in our daily lives.

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

How To Find a Good Man - The Right Way

There are a lot of different ways that you can learn how to find a good man in these modern times, but when you start to read the columns in gossip magazines, it can seem like a painstaking task. You may not want to hear that, but it's absolutely true, and many don't even realize that. If you have been trying to move forward with someone and you can't seem to get a commitment, let them go and seek out something better, something that will increase the likelihood of your courtship and even lead to marriage. The following will help you not only get the right man, it will also help you live life to the fullest.

The number one thing that you should remember is that you need to exhibit life to the fullest. If you show off your smile on every occasion and you are living life to the fullest, than you will attract a great number of people to hit on you. This is the single most important thing that you can do, smile. Smiling has been proven time and time again as something that will generate serious attention from the opposite sex, especially if you show it off when you're just walking down the street, or even grocery shopping.

The second thing that you will need to do is go out in public often. Go out and enjoy the greatness of your city, and do not simply go to the clubs. Find things that interest you, go and enjoy them. If you like reading, don't just go to a bookstore, hit the library. If you like music, go find record stores and other adventures that await you. Some might think that it's no fun alone, but if you can't be alone and independent, you will not be a good match for someone else. You absolutely need to keep this in mind. Be yourself and find yourself out there in your world. You need to be comfortable in your own skin before you can let anyone else into your universe. Remember that, and you'll be solid moving forward.